Sunday, May 8, 2011
Thursday, February 3, 2011
~The I Love Yous K gives for no reason at all.
~Experiencing K's firsts like they are my own.
~Watching K learn and grow.
~The funny things K says on an almost daily basis.
~Hearing K sing the silly little song her daddy made up about me.
~The squeal of "Mommy" when I pick her up from Ms. Paula's house.
~The tantrums because they remind me I am doing my job as a mommy.
~Watching her play house and school, just like I'm sure I did at her age.
~Her love for girly things and sports.
~Giving K all the things in life that she needs and some of her wants.
~Rewatching a Disney movie a thousand times and her singing the songs later.
~Her messes because I know she had fun.
~Her independence, except when I long for a snuggle and she wants to keep playing.
~Her beautiful smile and infectious laughter.
~The way she has softened her daddy and made him open to hugs and kisses.
K and her daddy exploring.
~Reading with her and asking her questions and watching her learn.
~The way she has filled my heart with more love than I ever thought was possible.
~For the future because I know the sky is the limit, but don't come too fast.
~For giving me the family I always dreamed of.
Our happy little family.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
K playing in the snow as it was starting on January 11th.
K's first snowman she built with NoNo after the last snow on January 20th.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
K with all her loot at the show. Sorry it is so dark it is from my phone.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
I get asked this question on a regular basis, which can be weekly, daily, and sometimes even hourly. I HATE this question because it is not really any body's business. At this time I am quite content with the healthy, happy, super smart 2 year old I have. I never wanted to have an only child, but over time I have grown more and more fond of this idea. After Nathan and I got married I always said I wanted 3 kids and he said 1, so 2 was a wonderful compromise in his eyes. I am now ready to go with his idea of K being an only child. I never wanted this for her because well my experience with only children is quite interesting. I married an only child and seriously dated an only child. The two most significant relationships I have ever had with the opposite sex were both with an only child. The way they were raised were polar opposites and the way the ended up were polar opposites and I knew from the get go I did not want this for K.
However, in my eyes a non-stop vomiting, so tired I slept my weekends away, horribly uncomfortable pregnancy led me to realize maybe K being an only child isn't so horrible. Not to mention a terribly long Pitocin ridden labor that finally ended in a semi-emergency c-section really took its toll on me. Over 2.5 years later I still have residual pain from my c-section and just cannot rack my brain around doing it again. This may be selfish and in many people's eyes it is. How can I let K grow up without a sibling? No one in our family has ever had an only child! What if something happens to you and Nathan, don't you want her to have someone? All of these are valid points and as much as I want K to have a brother or a sister I really don't want to put my body through all that again. Besides potty training, which she refuses to do, we are so far from the baby stage that I really don't know if I ever even want to do that again. K was such a good baby I feel the next one might jinx us.
I know there are other options, like adoption, but seriously we can't afford that and that seems like a craps shoot to me. You never know what you're going to get, but I guess the same could be said for K.
I have spoken to several friends who have an only child and they said their child is not missing out. They have friends, cousins, and family members who can fill the void and they feel their child is getting the best of them. I respect and admire every mom who has more than one child and has put their body through labor and delivery more than once. I know if K had a sibling we would make it work and there would be plenty of love to go around, but right now I see the sky as limitless with only her and cloud ridden if we have more. I think K can grow up and not be spoiled and well behaved if we teach her right from wrong and give her opportunities to give.
In time we may change our mind and I can look back at this post and laugh, but then I'm sure I'll get the why did you wait so long, they can't possibly be close if they are so far apart. So I guess I'll never win because I didn't have my next child the typical 2.5 years later.
So please don't judge a book by its cover and take a minute before you ask the dreaded question because the person may not have an answer or you may not like the one they give you!
And just because a super cute picture of K:
December 26, 2010:
We were all enjoying a wonderful Ahlers' family Christmas when the unthinkable happened. K started to have a pretty severe allergic reaction to either a peanut or an almond. K asked my mom if she could have a peanut and after eating the peanut then asked my mom for a black one (almond). My mom not thinking about it gave them to her. Within ten minutes her eyes were swelling shut and her lips were swelling. Thanks to a fast thinking family member who had Benedryl on hand we gave her a dose and climbed into Tom's new truck and were on our way to Urgent Care or the ER. On our way to Urgent Care K started to throw up and I just put my hands out and started catching her puke like it was something I do everyday. By the time we arrived at Urgent Care her swelling seemed to be down slightly and she was less lethargic. After a short wait in the waiting room and a long wait in the examine room the doctor came in and said she was indeed having an allergic reaction to something. He said that it could be the peanut, almond, or anything with in the last 72 hours. He prescribed her some Prednizone and told us to follow up with our doctor. Glad that K was on the mend and appreciative of how quickly my family reacted and helped out (Tom not only had his new truck christened with K's puke he went shopping on a Sunday to get K some new clothes because the bad mom I am forgot to pack new clothes in her bag.) we headed home. We tried hiding the Prednizone in the chocolate pudding like the doctor told us, but K is too smart for her own good and told us it was yucky pudding. So we had World War 3 for the next 5 days to get even some of the Prednizone into K's system. Why will my child not take medicine and when we can get some in her does she puke it all back up????
December 27th, 2010:
I call K's pediatrician's office and speak to a nurse. After consulting the doctor she makes an appointment for us to come into the office two weeks after her last does oe Prednizone for allergy testing. We had to wait at least two weeks for the Prednizone to be out of her system. In the mean time we should avoid all nut products.
January 17, 2011:
Thanks to Martin Luther King Jr. Day Nathan and I were both able to go to the doctor's office for the allergy testing. The doctor examined K and her eczema and said it looked good and then talked to us about what she was thinking. She thought since K had been exposed to peanut butter and we have no family history of food allergies that it was probably the almond, but she would do a full nut panel to be sure. She also said she would order us an epi pen in case she was to ever have this type of reaction again. The doctor then told K we were going to need to see how strong her blood was and that the nurse would be in a minute to get it. She then told K if she was good while they were testing her blood's strength she would get a cookie and sticker. K was content and the nurse came in. Nathan sat up on the examine table and had K in his lap. He held her arm, so that it was locked straight and I held her elbow, so she couldn't bend it. The nurse explained everything to K as she did it and even complimented her throughout the procedure. When she was all done drawing her blood (well over a minute) she told K that she was one of the best kids she had even drawn blood on and was way better then even the older kids. Yay K!!! The nurse said we would know the results in 72 hours at the most. When we were leaving I started to feel queasy I guess from watching the blood come out of K and had to go use the restroom. When I met up with K and Nathan in the lobby she not only had a sticker and a cookie, but she also got to pick a toy out of the toy chest for being so brave. Once we left the doctor's office we were off to get a milkshake (doctor's orders) and a new toy for K (mommy's orders).
January 20, 2011
The dreaded call came in today. This date had already significantly changed my life 8 years earlier and was about to again change my life. A nurse called and told me that K not only had the one allergy I prayed see would never get, a peanut allergy, but she was also allergic to our cats :( and slightly allergic to dogs and milk (wth) she drinks it everyday. Funny thing is that she was not allergic to the almond. The nurse told us K must avoid all peanut products and we need to read all labels carefully and the cats must go. I started to have a break down and Nathan seemed to be in denial. I decided that I wanted to talk to the doctor about K's allergy testing, not that I didn't trust the nurse, but we still had so many questions and I just wanted to talk to the doctor. Unfortunately when I called the doctor's office our doctor was out of the office, thanks snow storm, and she would call me tomorrow.
January 21, 2011
I finally got some good news after speaking to K's doctor. It appears as though her peanut allergy is probably on the mild side since she has had peanut butter before. It seems as though the allergy may only be triggered by ingesting the actual nut and not all peanut products. We will still avoid peanut butter and all things that contain nuts, but she can still have stuff where peanuts may be used in the factory (plain M&M's) and peanut oil (5 Guys fries). We can also keep our cats. Hallelujah!!! They are a big part of our family and we are all attached, especially K. The doctor did say we probably shouldn't get any new four legged friends which won't be a problem because three is plenty! The cats were probably also the culprit of K's eczema and that she has grown up a tolerance to them. The doctor said to not worry about the milk allergy if she doesn't appear to have any problems with it. Hooray! I don't know what we would have done because K ONLY drinks milk and water. She loathes juice. The doctor then said we would take K to an allergist at age 5 where they would give K food challenges with peanut butter and stuff and determine where to go from there. In the mean time we are to avoid nuts and carry around the epi pen and Benedryl everywhere we go.
So that is the saga of K's allergies. It has been a long couple of weeks with one heck of a roller coaster ride, but I now feel comfortable with the diagnosis and feel it is manageable.
1. I will document my thoughts and feelings on my adventure of being a mom because it seems once I have things sort of figured out I'm thrown a curve ball.
2. Writing is cathartic and I think sometimes I am even good at it.
3. This will be a great way to document stuff for K and myself to look back on later.
So these are my reasons for blogging. If you're reading this thank you and if not that is ok too.